I've seen an Internet meme making the rounds with my Facebook friends; it compares what those who seek to commercialize a holiday like Mother's Day want us to think we want, with what moms actually want.
I'm sure plenty of us are itching for a nice piece of jewlry or an all-day spa retreat, but I get the impression that what most mothers really want is to feel appreciated.
We don't actually need expensive presents, what we really need is to replenish our emotional stores that can become so easily drained by dedicating every waking thought to the wellbeing of these tiny people. Consider how mothers of very small children may very well desire basic needs, like sleep, over lavish gifts.
So how do we deal with a media barrage telling our significant others what they are expected to deliver when our actual desires are a bit more simplistic?
It is as simple as speaking up and telling them exactly what you want. I bet every mom could think up a perfect gift that doesn't cost a dime. And that could be combined with a fun family day.
Here are a few ideas:
- Enjoy a picnic in the park. Let your partner pack all the supplies and meals for everyone in the family.
- Brunch at your favorite restaurant or at home, and you don't have to be responsible for cooking or spoon-feeding anyone. In other words: a guaranteed hot meal.
- A casual day playing at home without having to change a single diaper.
- Have your partner take the kids out to the playground for a few hours in the morning so you can sleep in and recharge for an afternoon of family games.
- A family movie night where you get to pick the movie, and your loved ones serve your favorite snacks.